Sometimes when the weather has turned much colder you'll get those unseasonably warm days. In the Northeast they can seem out of place, the brillance of the warmth and sun in stark contrast to the barron trees and dying grass. These days can feel like one last glimpse of the summer. One last chance to enjoy before the cold sets in.
People too go through these moments in life. We all have moments where we are reminded of something that once was or something we now long to have. Who hasn't when seeing an old flame thought about a happy moment together. Or when running into a former coworker thought maybe that would be a job I can do again.
Some people spend a moment or two on the past, fondly remembering the past. Others spend their whole lives thinking about their mistakes, the mistakes of others and never fully realize that while they are concentrating on the past and making sure nothing else happens to them that they are in essence making sure nothing else does happen, good or bad.
My biggest pet peeve is when people longing look at the past and say "oh well too much has happened I can't go back to that." That is a correct statement, who in us really wants to go back to what we use to be. I surely do not want to be 19 years old again...it was hell enough the first time. Yeah it might be nice to change some mistakes here and there but in reality I am who I am because of the choices I've made in my life.
What bothers me most about these people is that they could very easily have something better than they had before if they where to put the effort into it. Life is full of lessons, no one said it was ever suppose to be easy. Someone once told me you can't remodel a house without busting down some walls and tearing things up. Having dabbled in home remodeling before I know how much of a mess that can be, and when everything is covered in dust its hard to understand how this finish product will ever come about.
Sometimes I feel like we need to do that, or more correctly god needs to do that in order to get our "house" in order. Sometimes we need to tear things up and move things around, we need to break down a relationship and rebuild it. When you are in the process of remodeling you don't stop half way and say "Oh well it's too hard I'm just gonna go find a new house." No that would be silly because at some point you'll see that too needs remodeling.
Who among us hasn't said well it's too scary...there is too much to change, I don't even know if I really can. That is the "dust" that is covering your house. The insecurity, fear or failure or one of a hundred other emotions. Sit long enough and that dust will cover you as well. If however you stand up and brush off the dust, pick up a tool and start working on it again I bet the finished product will be much better than whatever it was before it began.
No it isn't going to be exactly the same but honestly if it was fine the way it was it would not have needed to be remodeled to begin with. From my experience no one has a home that stay perfect for long and as we change, and grow so does the house. Sometimes its a seamless change other times its a major remodel but each time it's still our house....
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